I’m having a bit of a dilemma about what’s OK to blog about and what not. E.g. my last post, that’s not really my story to share, is it? Where do you draw the line as a blogger when it comes to writing things that are on your mind, but that may not necessarily be entirely ethically correct to speak about?
I won’t leave you hanging, the diagnosis is confirmed. The lump is removed. She won’t get hormonal treatment because it’s not that kind of cancer, it doesn’t respond to hormones, so the decision is now up to her in terms of chemotherapy and radiation. It’s not a nice or easy decision, the bottom line is that chemo is going to make her very sick and it’s only purpose is to “be on the safe side”. I don’t know what to say, I’m not sure what choice I would make in that same boat. I think the recommendation to remain child free for 5 years stands.
In other news, the blogettes are all abuzz with some really super amazing news of an adoption placement… but that is a story that will be told in good time by the new mommy who is one of us.
So where do you draw the line with your blogging? Would you for instance, tell the story of a colleague who opened up to me after I told her about the above placement, and told me that she suffered an adoption loss before adopting her daughter? I’m touched by how people’s stories inspire others to open up and share their experiences, and I like writing about that kind of thing. But again, it’s not my story to tell, other than maybe how I was impacted by it.
Do you wonder about how your blog impacts your readers, your family, the people who know you? Do you wonder about how your blog impacts you? Like for instance, we all have those bad-hair-day posts, where we are grumpy or annoyed with someone or some situation and we need to get it off our chest, knowing that the comments will provide support, comfort and some reason to snap out of it. How do we know that doesn’t impact us further down the line one day, applying for a job, meeting people we don’t know, taking our kids (to be) to a friend’s house for a play date? Maybe something you voiced into the ether in 2006, will follow you around for years to come.
I’d like to think that in general the impact of our blogging world is positive. It’s a thought provoking conversation, most of the time. It’s an incredibly compassionate space. And to be honest, yes it’s true that everything you post on FB or on blogs is something that can follow you around for an eternity, but who has the time to check out what someone they’ve just met, said in 2006?
I guess it’s just stalker fodder. Someone would need to take a very serious interest in who you are to get obsessed about everything you’ve ever said. It happens, and it happens to some pretty ordinary people. And I’m sure when it does, life can get somewhat complicated, but am I prepared to give up writing, which I love so much, because of it? Definitely not.